Apabila ditanya “Bila nak kahwin?”

Kenapa saya tulis berkenaan tajuk ini sedangkan saya seorang yang tidak gemar menceritakan perihal perkahwinan. Yup, agak rimas apabila kerap kali ditanya dengan soalan yang sama diajukan dan tiada jawapan yang pasti. Tidak berani nk post entri ini kerana ditakuti disalahtafsirkan.

Apa reaksi saya apabila soalan ini dituju kepada saya?

“tunggu aje la kad jemputan”.

“kita tunggu org yg dh x sabar2 dulu...(org yg dh bertunang)”

“tunggu awk dulu...”

“xde calon yg nk kt kita...”

Jawapan yang sebenar2nya ialah....

Jodohkan di tangan Allah. Wallahu ‘alam...Hanya Allah sahaja yang tahu.

Naik je sem baru, 4 org rakan sekelas saya telah berkahwin semasa cuti. Hurm...biasalah student UIA mmg ramai kahwin awal. It's a good desicion.Tahniah buat kalian yang berjaya melepasi tahap bujang!

Naik sem baru ni jugak la ramai yang bercerita pasal kahwin.

pergi kelompok kt sana, cerita pasal kahwin....pergi kelompok kt bilik sebelah,cerita pasal kahwin...

huh...letih telinga menadah cerita pasal kahwin....kahwin..kahwin....

Bagi saya, nak kahwin awal tiada masalah tapi adakah kita pasti bahawa perkahwinan kita berlandaskan nafsu atau kerana Allah?

Kalau kita rasa nak kahwin disebabkan x sabar bila tgk kawan-kawan kita ramai yang dah kahwin, it’s better for us to stop thinking about that.

Memang tidak dapat dinafikan bahawa peringkat umur 20-an ramai yang sudah mendirikan rumah tangga tetapi bagi saya perkahwinan adalah suatu tempoh yang memerlukan masa yang sangat panjang utk berfikir. Perlu fikir sedalam-dalamnya. Ia melibatkan kehidupan kita selama-lamanya.

Kita tidak pasti bagaimana perjalanan hidup kita selepas kita berubah status daripada “single and available” kepada “married”. Bukan sahaja status yang berubah malah tanggungjawab juga berubah.

Bila difikirkan tanggungjawab sekarang sebagai seorang anak sulong terhadap ibu bapa dan kakak sulong kepada 7 orang adik-beradik masih tidak dapat dijalankan dengan sebaik mungkin, membuatkan saya takut untuk menambah tanggungjawab saya sebagai seorang isteri dan juga seorang ibu.

Keluarga yang sakinah dan mawaddah adalah idaman bagi setiap pasangan yang sudah berkeluarga. Begitu juga saya. Saya ingin melahirkan anak-anak yang soleh dan solehah. Tetapi ia harus bermula daripada ibu bapa anak tersebut. Means, harus bermula dengan diri saya sendiri.

Bagi saya, saya masih belum mampu untuk melepasi tahap bujang kini. Saya masih belum berjaya mendidik seseorang untuk menjadi solehah seperti anak solehah yang saya idamkan. Saya belum berjaya mendidik adik-adik saya ke arah soleh dan solehah.

Tambahan pula, masalah keluarga menghempap keinginan untuk memikirkan tentang perihal ini. How stress I am? Sometimes it disturbs my studies. But I have to go through this life patiently. Only faith accompanied me. Life is challenges. No challenges, no life.

Practise makes perfect. So, keep practising and learning.

Sooner or later, saya akan kahwin juga satu hari nanti. Jika bukan di dunia, Insya Allah di akhirat akan bertemu juga jodoh saya.

Sudah dijanjikan oleh Allah bahawa “telah dijadikan manusia itu berpasang-pasangan”. (Surah Hujurat)

Pasangan bagi kerusi ialah meja.

Pasangan bagi lelaki ialah perempuan.

Pasangan bagi siang ialah malam.

Pasangan bagi Hawa ialah ....................... Adam. (Ahaks! Do not speculate this statement, ok...)

Whatever it is, pasangan kita telah ditentukan oleh Allah. Cuma kita perlu jihad dengan kesabaran when it will happen and with whom...

THEY ARE ALWAYS IN MY HEART

While looking for a title of the new post, just a little bit sharing during tazkirah session at the beginning of our meeting yesterday.

There are lots of differences between us, in Malaysia and those, in Gaza.

Since I just finished reading a book entitled "Naskhah Cinta Buat Nusaibah" by Ustaz Ridhuan Mohd Nor, it is a chance for me to share my knowledge.

"ballighu 'anni wallaww aayah"

A catchy title of the book grasps readers’ attention. Actually, this book does not about love that people eager want to know about, but it is the love to become freedom from offensive.

While people in Malaysia were keep thinking of “where we want to eat?” during Ramadhan, people in Gaza were keep thinking of “What we want to eat?”.

Did we care what kind of food people in Gaza eat but we in Malaysia always put an effort to break-fasting at exclusive hotel with high costly special menu.

Even though people in Gaza poor with wealth, but they are prosperous with knowledge. There are very knowledgeable people because process of learning always occurred at every edge of the world in Gaza. The mothers teach their children and the teachers teach their students even under tight condition.

The author of the book was asked a question to one of the children in Gaza, “why you should study hard?” Then, that child answered, “I want to fight with the intelligent Muslims’ enemies”

See... how eager they are in seeking knowledge.

But we in Malaysia always take for granted in seeking knowledge. During our childhood, our parents always keep lecturing their children to study hard.

For what purpose??? Of course to hunt the best job in the future. That’s why we have to study hard in order to obtain the highest cgpa. After get a good job, we will have a good salary and we enable to have exclusive cars and house.

These are how materials have governed the human-being. Materials control men not men control materials. This is what happened in ourselves nowadays.

In administration aspect, since HAMAS are leading Gaza, Israel always take many efforts to ruin this government. Because of that, the prime minister’s schedule must be secret to avoid Israel’s attack.  

So, the army always be with Ismail Haniyyeh (Prime Minister of Palestine) wherever he goes to protect himself from any offensives.

The military system in Palestine does not like the military system in Malaysia and other democratic countries. The army should have spiritual strength and physical strength as well. They never left their fasting in Monday and Thursday.

See...how they practise Islam in any fields. Islam is syumul and flexible. I always pray for “freedom will come Palestine!” . Insha Allah.

These differences always make me think of my life. Am I strong to undergo this life better? This book always makes me think of the hardship in our life in order to obtain mardhotillah.

If we think that we are in difficulties, but there are a thousand people outside there who are suffering and fighting their life for ummah.